I found this on the Huffington Post: “past a certain age, casual sex is like recreational heroin -- it doesn't stay recreational for long. That's due in part to this thing called oxytocin -- a bonding hormone that is released when a woman a) nurses her baby and b) has an orgasm -- that will totally mess up your casual-sex game. It's why you can be f**k-buddying with some dude who isn't even all that great and the next thing you know, you're totally strung out on him. And you have no idea how it happened. Oxytocin, that's how it happened. And since nature can't discriminate between marriage material and Charlie Sheen, you're going to have to start being way more selective than you are right now.”
Is she right? Overlooking anything?
I see this as a contradiction. She admits nature can't discriminate between marriage material and Charlie Sheen, meaning it doesn't matter who, per say, is causing the release of the Oxytocin. But before that she says "you're totally strung out on HIM." It would appear that recreational sex could indeed not stay recreational, but the recipient of the sex, so to speak, doesn't matter. Just the act.
Even if she's right, oxytocin in no way proves that monogamy was the ancestral condition for humans. For a while now, my conclusion has been that it wasn't.
Also, I love the irony of a woman purporting to give advice about how to find "everlasting love" when she herself apparently hasn't found it.
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Wed. 12/07/04 20:53 EDT.post #201 Gero:Is she right? Overlooking anything?To answer this, we must first understand what she is saying.Stripped of all the diversionary, irrelevant psychobabble, what she is saying distills to this:"The man you're dating won't marry you unless he's already interested in marrying someone."I don't think this is necessarily or always true.As for the insinuation that humans are "slaves to chemistry":Addiction Is A Choice
Gero:Is she right? Overlooking anything?
Sexuality and brain chemistry, I watched this interesting lecture:
You'll should really read sex at dawn. Detalis here.
Casual sex is pure promiscuity. Only serves the marxist purpose of replace the traditional family by free love (promiscuity).
Hormonal changes are nothing compared to Cialdinian consistency effects.
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That woman doesn't understand chemistry and the reason she is not married is because she is an idiot.
"past a certain age, casual sex is like recreational heroin -- it doesn't stay recreational for long." What oxytocin does is give you a particular desire. Satisfying that desire then becomes "recreational". Nowhere in logic does it fit that fornication is no longer recreational. The only thing that can be concluded from biological research is that you might not be able to be "casual" about anything that involves such strong desire. I'd guess that was well known long before the advent of microbiology.
That Gary Wilson talk was incredibly bad. By half-way through I was thinking "weak" but by the end, it was simply bad. Anecdotal evidence counts as a basis for sound scientific conclusions? Seriously? There are no control groups? You're telling me that men in all cultures, everywhere on the planet all regularly use high-speed, HD porn? Really? I'm sure that's news to most African, Middle Eastern and Asian men.
I'm just going to quote Dr. Szasz: "Behavior is not a disease." If you look at porn and you're not having any other issues in your life, you don't have a disorder and I'm not sure it should be called an addiction, no matter how frequently you do it. The same goes for smoking or anything else.
As for root-causing sexual performance problems or other sex-related problems, dropping the porn for a while is an obvious experiment. If you're having problems with depression, motivation, and so on, another experiment you should try is going off grains which are probably much more deleterious to your overall health - psychological as well as physiological - than porn.
Seriously, I felt like I was listening to a Catholic priest delivering a sermon on the seed of Onan. Just horrid, not TED-worthy material at all.
Clayton -
If you're having problems with depression, motivation, and so on, another experiment you should try is going off grains which are probably much more deleterious to your overall health - psychological as well as physiological - than porn.
That site is the epitome of douchery, the apex of which is having your own vitamin brand. Let's see some research papers and not some gimp trying to market $200 bottles of pills.
I should specify that oxytocin is not a "bonding hormone". "Bond" is a context dependent term used in research papers to encapsulate a class of behaviour. You could in similar fashion call a heroin addict's behaviour a "bond" to the drug. Oxytocin affects behaviour through the reward system and there are other areas of behaviour where it has been examined. Most oxytocin research and most research in general that I've read has not been done with humans. People with hidden agendas, namely religious propaganda, will use research on chemicals in lab animals, for which results are qualitatively different, to push their BS.
That site is the epitome of douchery
What's that saying? Something to the effect of "better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt"? Sisson is no douche and if you had bothered to read even a preliminary introduction to his dietary philosophy, you'd know this.
It's something to the effect of using old marketing tricks to sell his own product line. It's the same as Ben Johnson holding a Cheetah can, except he is his own celebrity. I read the page you linked to. It's simply common sense with a dose of comical throwbacks to primitive life for flavour. His sales tactic is ye olde scare people out of "modern medicine" and into his expensive product line. He claims that, "Most of life is really much simpler than modern medicine and science would like to have you believe." Yet not so simple as to live without his $200 pills, "premium content" and whatever other junk he pitches. Apparently "simple" in his language means ignore everyone else and listen to his "special" wisdom. There's a good reason that guru marketers distance themselves from anyone with education and play rebel. If there are fools here, I'm not one of them.
Wow, the self-proclaimed math genius is a dietary expert as well!
The only things I've "proclaimed" are facts about my history. This is my view on experts. At least try a less transparent lie next time.
Just link him to some studies (that he is too lazy to find himself)!
FTR, my comment was rhetorical. It's rather absurd on the face of it to make some abstract statement about "health" in reference to research. Research produces specific results. It doesn't define "health".
I also consider the "gimp" comment to be libelous, considering Mark Sisson's current state of health.
That choice of word was random. I wasn't commenting on his health, I wouldn't assess his health and I don't care about what anyone else invalidly assumes about his "health".
@Caley: You really have no idea what you're talking about.
It's something to the effect of using old marketing tricks to sell his own product line.
It's the same as Ben Johnson holding a Cheetah can, except he is his own celebrity.
I read the page you linked to. It's simply common sense with a dose of comical throwbacks to primitive life for flavour.
His sales tactic is ye olde scare people out of "modern medicine" and into his expensive product line.
He claims that, "Most of life is really much simpler than modern medicine and science would like to have you believe." Yet not so simple as to live without his $200 pills, "premium content" and whatever other junk he pitches.
Apparently "simple" in his language means ignore everyone else and listen to his "special" wisdom.
There's a good reason that guru marketers distance themselves from anyone with education and play rebel.
If there are fools here, I'm not one of them.
I also feel compelled to say as someone that was an actual math "genius" (which in truth means little) in school IRL that I always feel insulted by stories about such people.